For some, stress is difficult to live with. For others it's hard to live without.
As soon as a 36-year-old woman opens her eyes and sees her sleep in half an hour, she has a feeling of being one of those days when nothing seems to be right. Rushing to finish work, she clicks a glass of hot milk on the kitchen floor, and then just shoots out to find that the trains are delayed due to electric shock. After finally arriving in her office, late of course she learns that her boss has moved an important deadline that will keep her working late every night next week. When she comes home she finds that the washing machine has broken down.
Contrary to having a retired manager who wakes up at the usual time, he has a slow breakfast with his wife and then goes to the club for golfing with friends. He returns home after lunch, takes a nap, and then is an early dinner and watches a movie in the video.
Which person is under greater stress? Outside the answer is obvious; The woman is under pressure. However, the answer is just the opposite. The pension manager may be ready to burst, but the working woman can handle the situation slowly.
Most stresses we experience do not come from an external source. That's something we live with, say experts. People react to similar things, and things that can look very stressful in one person can not have anything else in anyone else. The difference lies in how people perceive the event, not in the events themselves.
Some seem to perceive innocent events and common places as moods or threats. Such men have long lasting stress or alcohol problems. It's almost as if they have a physical carving to get upset. They go fine for days at a time, then Boom: They got a bad television reception, or a film of dust was found on the window, and they are all twisted. The bad spell could continue for several days at a time. And that's so predictable. No matter how well the blisters are going, sooner or later, such men go to berserk. If nothing came to light, stress, they found something.
Such prolonged stress can lead to a range of physical problems, ranging from mood feelings, indigestion and irregular arrhythmia, cardiovascular disease and stroke.
That's not to say we should try to avoid stress altogether. Sometimes stress can be a huge motivation, encouraging us to complete our work or cope with difficult situations. Other stresses are not useful, but are inevitable: Death in the family, driven from work, sickening illness. The secret is not to strive to avoid all stress, but instead learn how to deal with it effectively.
Thoughts can come from our minds to master us, which we must first understand and what it means to our body and that means traveling back in time a few million years. Again, stress had to reverse loading tigers, not standing up for a tyrannical boss. For our ancestor caveman was the right reaction either to fight or flight. Either deputy called an energy pressure called "stress hormone", substances that increase heart rate, blood pressure and muscle strength and increase our response time. All of these changes are useful if you're facing a tiger snarling, but not so healthy when you're faced with working with a two-legged version one day after day.
Support for stress has changed over the years, but physiological responses are still the same. When we face financial concerns, for example, stress can last for months or even years. After a while, the body probably begins to tire and then we begin to experience abnormal physical reactions such as depression, fatigue, sexual problems, bowel and urinary tract, pain and pain and palpitations. And in certain individuals, stress can be called serious illnesses such as wounds, coronary heart disease and stroke.
What is the reason why people have different responses to stress?
Some researchers believe that the answer lies in the body itself. "People react differently to complex and subjective biochemical factors," says Dr. Ray Rosenman, co-author of A-behavior, and your heart and a director of cardiovascular disease at Stanford Research Institute. "There are certain biological and biological reasons for comprehensive responses people's need for anxiety and stress."
In this perspective, our response is different from stress beyond our control, set of physiological and genetic factors that can not be changed. According to Dr. Rosenman, for example, appears to be women more likely to anxiety than men, a difference in which he is partially characterized by hypertension disorders.
Other experts believe that the answer is in the mind, in long-term behavioral patterns and belief systems that affect the ways we perceive and deal with stress. How we look at the world, says this thought school, almost formed in childhood. Then we go through life in light of the fact that we are taking our decision consciously. When we are effectively controlled by chronic subconscious data.
To illustrate an example, take an example of a man, as a rational, subconscious belief that he needs the constant approval of all his relatives, friends and staff. Obviously he is not going to get what, he understands the feeling abandoned and rejected. While a colleague can see an awesome boss simply as irritant, this person can convince himself that it is obvious that he is being driven. The key to dealing with this stress is to recognize what he believes in and change it.
A Commonsense Approach
Most stress reduction programs relate to some basic methods that everyone can follow:
- Keep stressing dairy products to record what causes your stress, assess their importance on scale one to ten. Then sign and answer your answers. Ten answers to two problems are stupid.
- Exercise can be one of the best stresses of all.
- Change your diet to cut out the content that can aggravate your stress. Eat well balanced and reduce the consumption of caffeine, salt, alcohol and cigarettes.
- Learn relaxation and meditation techniques and practice them on a regular basis. A growing number of books and tapes can teach you the basics and even a few minutes of such techniques every day can calm and refresh you.
- Build strong support networks of family and friends to help you through difficult times. Sometimes taking all that is needed to relieve stress is a long conversation with a good friend.
- And in spite of most foundations of all, do not sweat the little stuff. Imagine that most of the stress we have in our lives will probably not be important every year or even a month. The secret of reducing stress is to realize that life is good despite daily irritation.
Whatever it causes some people to believe that stress is normal and it does not work without it. Stress for them becomes a kind of addiction, the fastest way to feel good.
Take an example of a manager at a financial company that imposes long working hours in a highly stressful environment. In connection with his wife, he finally agreed to take a three-week vacation. Once there, he could not relax with all the new stress he created for himself: worried about the hotel's safety, the dissatisfaction with the house and the staff and the frenetic plan that took them all the tourism. "I thought when he got away from the office everything was good," says his fine. "But he actually seemed more stressed on vacation than he did before. It's like the thought of absolutely relaxing scares him to death."
Such stress can simply be a suicide routine, or a way to avoid other serious problems: "I have so much stress at work that I do not have the energy to deal with my mother's illness." By focusing on Minor irritation can help you overcome deeper concerns or avoid them, which leads to constant stress relief.
Some scientists predict that the key to understanding addictive stress lies in the same physical and emotional reactions that depend on addiction such as smoking or drinking. Dr Paul Rosch, president of the US Union and clinical professor of medicine and psychiatry at New York Medical College, says people can get rid of adrenaline secretion that gets rid of stress response. "When it happens, they have a change in a certain number of senders who feel a sense of satisfaction," he says. "If they can not get this boost of adrenaline, we can not get this fun feeling. It's a similar system for those who participate in other drugs."
Such results can explain the satisfaction some people claim to occur when they are under stress. "The only time I really feel alive is when I'm working for an impossible time," confesses one woman. "When the pressure is off, everything seems flat."
Without we completely isolating ourselves from the world, of course we need to survive stress. And the best way to do it, say doctors and psychologists, does not have artificial intelligence as calming, but with lifestyle and intellectual change.
"The best advice to deal with stress is simple: find out what makes you anxious and then the pain to avoid it," says Dr. Rosenman.
But there are many stresses that we simply need to learn to deal with: long, long-term work at work, long-term illness of a spouse, money issue. These are things we have little control over, and they may be harmful.
What we control is how we respond to such problems. As an example at the beginning of this article shows, it's not so much what external pressure is and how we deal with them. Various methods can help you change your behavioral patterns in ways that can affect the physical stress symptoms.
More profound, cognitive changes may require external consultants or more inspiration. Certain fundamentals play an important role in the pressure caused by many older people, because they are often unclear at high pressure or in a struggle to raise a family. Instead, they can worry about diminishing health, loss of friends and the feeling of being not productive after retirement.
When we fire, we need to develop new methods to deal with new stress in our lives. One of the most important issues is self-worth. Often we commit ourselves to "self-assessment" and evaluate our value through our productivity or by evaluating ourselves from another life. Changes alive, we must define ourselves in a new way.
Lesson is one thing we should all learn: stress is manageable and treated misery. With sufficient effort and understanding, it does not have to be a lifetime.